There are always things people don’t tell you about being pregnant. And it’s usually because people don’t like talking about the gory stuff – but the gory stuff will happen whether we talk about it or not! There were so many things I wish I had been told about when I was pregnant with Alex because I would have felt a little more prepared. I thought that I already knew everything I needed to this time around because, well, I’ve done it before! But 2nd pregnancies aren’t always the same and here are 5 things I have found have been different from my first pregnancy that I wish I had known.
1. It’s more nerve wracking than a first pregnancy. I think this is because you’re quite naive in first pregnancies. Even if you’ve seen friends go through it already you have no idea what’s normal or what can go wrong. The second time around, every pain, twinge, hour of non-movement sends you into panic mode and you automatically assume somethings wrong. And then there’s the worry about labour and birth itself…. it’s a never ending whirlpool of worry.
2. Everything stretches and gets bigger much quicker. I had a bump a similar size to my 26 week bump at 18 weeks this time around! I’d been told you’re usually bigger with your second but I didn’t realise everything happened so quickly! I’ve been in maternity jeans since 12 weeks!
3. You forget how pregnancy ‘feels’. I always thought I remembered my whole pregnancy with Alex. But it turns out I really hadn’t! I have said to Tim on numerous occasions ‘I don’t remember this with Alex‘ but I get a response that actually I
mentioned complained about that last time… (me, complain? Never!)
4. It’s totally different. So, you remember everything from your previous pregnancy? Congratulations on your brain not being like mush! Now forget everything and treat it like you’ve never been pregnant before. I have been told that each pregnancy is different, but I have also been told that they won’t differ that much at all. I guess it will be different for everybody, but I really wish that I had known how different my pregnancies were going to be, just so I could maybe feel a little more prepared.
5. It’s much more tiring. It makes sense really but I just assumed that I would be ok and that I would be able to work right up until my due date like I did with Alex. Big mistake. Obviously with a toddler and no longer working behind a desk I was going to feel more tired, but I never dreamed it would be this bad!